Changes

Please update your links, I'm going back to Tumblr. It's silly how many online accounts I have, so I'm getting rid of this one. I don't even blog that frequently on here because I feel like it has to be a long post. I'm keeping my Google account though so I can still comment on blogs, and comments can be done on Tumblr via Disqus/Google.

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Our Wedding

There has been so much to do around the apartment, but I finally have a small break. (Although after this it's right back to working on the apartment - my family is coming up to visit me tomorrow for my twenty-seventh birthday!) Anyway, here are a few photos of our wedding. It was a beautiful day that was so much fun. I felt silly for having stressed over all the attention I would be getting, but once I was in it, it felt amazing that so many people had gone to see us get married and party with us afterward. It was pure joy.

I hope to be able to share photos taken by our official photographer soon, but until then, here are some that friends and family took. I will do a separate post for all the fun reception photos soon!

If you've ever been to a Catholic wedding (or Mass in general), you know they can be over an hour long. So I was a bit nervous about sitting up there in front of everyone for so long, but it truly flew by.

Walking out as a Mr. & Mrs.

It was a bit overwhelming after Mass. We walked out and posed for photos by ourselves and with our friends and family.

One of my favorite photos of the day!

Then we went back inside with our photographer to take bridal party photos and family photos. Like I said before, I really hope we get them back soon. I predict lots more wedding spam once we get them. :)

Thank You!

First of all, a big thanks to those lovelies that guest posted for me while I was off getting married + honeymooning! I so appreciate it! Second, thanks to those of you that have congratulated me either here on the blog, Tumblr, or Twitter.

I've had a great week and I will be posting about it soon. I just realized I never finished posting about my bachelorette weekend in Palm Springs. I am quite obsessed with the Ace and hope to be able to go again soon with my husband. (It feels weird to say that! Love it!)

It was a great time with some of my favorite ladies - what more could I want?

Guest Post: Courtney

hi everyone! this is courtney from vintch. i am so, so honored to be posting in cara-mia's lovely space while she gallivants around san fran with her new husband. have a beautiful time, dear. i still remember the feel of the breeze on my cheeks and the pigeons by the wharf. that city is a dream.

i was asked to write about weddings/marriage. and my mind immediately filled with images of my big day. about our big band. the hydrangeas. the look on robert's face when he gathered my hands in his own.

but then my thoughts fell on that slash. that little line between weddings. and marriage.

if ever there was something beautiful and pure in this world, it is a wedding. it is flowers, and getting dolled up. it's anticipation and pachelbel's canon. it's a first dance and a honeymoon. and from tiny churches to big islands, any place in the world becomes romantic when two people gather hands, in front of their families and distant cousins and girls and boys they've known since second grade, and tell each other i just can't imagine sleeping anywhere but beside you.

but there is a slash there. a separation. a chasm between wedding and marriage that must be accounted for.

my romance is one of the absolute greatest blessings of my life. i met robert in high school and followed him to college. we fought like crazy for a while (because who knew there were hot girls who liked to lay out under the volleyball courts even when it was shady out?) i was insecure. he was unsure. but we found our way back to each other. we married exactly five years from our first date.

there was a crystal chandelier and i wore my mama's blue birthstone ring. i wore my hair down and he spun me around to somewhere over the rainbow.

and i wish i could say that every single day since then has been as lovely, perfect and sweet as our wedding.

but it's been a marriage. a lifelong, day-in, day-out, i'm-tired-and-it's-wednesday-night-and-let's-just-go-to bed-and-forget-this-day-ever-happened ebb and flow. of late nights snuggling in front of the televisions and early mornings too tired to even speak. of afternoons on the guest bed playing with our pup as the sun slowly sets behind the blinds. of birthdays and holidays and mondays.

he's my best friend, this man. but we're human. and we fight. and hurt each other sometimes.

because my wedding was a day. and aside from the births of my future babies, it was quite possibly the best day of my life. but he puts the life in my days. that's the difference. that right there is the sweet separation. the delicate dash.

{Finishing off the week with Courtney's post. Her words are always so beautiful and I can get lost in her writing. This one reminds me of the slogan of our engaged encounter weekend: A wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime. Thank you Courtney, and to all the ladies that guest posted on here while I've been honeymooning. I really appreciate it.}

Guest Post: Amber

HI! Amber here from I love you to the moon.

So happy to be guest posting on this pretty ladies blog while she away honeymooning!! So exciting.Thrilled for you two!! :D

I have been married for three and half years now and what an experience it’s been. I’d like to say that it’s all been easy, and always always fun but truth is, marriage is hard work. Relationships are hard sometimes. Two imperfect people joining together and living in one house, is a set up for conflict. Marriage is beautiful, rewarding, and worth the work ten times over though.  I have found several things that have really helped though along the way, I’ll share the four biggest ones to me.  

Make time for each other.

My absolute favorite thing in the word is spending time with Adam. It doesn’t even matter what we are doing. Some of our date nights we spend in sweats on the couch with wine and movie. Others we get fancy and go have sushi, or go to movies. The activity doesn’t matter; the one on one time is what really counts. I always make sure my phone is off and put away. It is so easy to want to document everything – “hold on! I need a picture of that sushi before you eat any of it.” ;] which I think is fine, but then I tend to want to upload it immediately, look at comments ect. So, I only pull my phone out for quick pictures and then put it away and devote my time to conversation and making my husband feel loved and important. The time we do have, we try to make count and make each other priority. Cell phones and social media have made it so hard to truly disconnect, but I think it’s so necessary sometimes.

Take joy in little things.

This is one of my favorite things to do in life. Notice how the sun is shining, the wind is blowing, and making everything look vibrant and so alive, listening to rain drops on the tin patio roof, enjoying the sunrise and sunsets that seem like they are painted only for me. It makes the day so beautiful and special. I think the same thing goes for relationships. Notice the little things you love about your spouse and tell them! The way they look at you in the mornings, they way they laugh when something is really funny, the kindness that’s so evident in their eyes. There are so many little things to appreciate that are sometimes so easily overlooked.

Compromise.

This obviously doesn’t go for just marriage. Compromise is important in friendships and relationships of any sort.  However, once mastered will make your marriage so happy.  Take delight in doing things that your spouse loves, even if you don’t. Watch a game he/she is really interested in, go fishing, play sports together, watch chick flicks/action movies, shopping dates! It makes life so much easier and enjoyable. Celebrate differences you have. Differences make the world go around and can make your relationship super exciting if you choose to let them!

Respect.

Respect each other. Never lose that aspect of your relationship. I think sometimes couples let things get to lax and this is one of them. I don’t ever want Adam to think I don’t respect and care for him deeply. I want to give him the common courtesy I give strangers and acquaintances (and so much more.) You tend to be kind and courteous to people you don't know well. I make an effort to greet Adam at the door with a hug and kiss when he gets home, say please and thank you always, be kind and courteous, and do little things that let him know I truly care for him. I respect him as a man, my man, and want him to know that always.

Obviously I’m not a pro, but these are the things I’ve found to be so important in our marriage. <3

Have a lovely day!

Thank you for having me again, sweet girl!


{Thanks, Amber! Anyone that follows your blog/Instagram can see how close you and Adam are, and it's so admirable. I'm happy to have your advice here. <3 }

Guest Post: Ashley

Hi lovelies! I'm Ashley from Hudson's Happenings. I am so excited that my sweet and beautiful friend Cara-Mia invited me over to hang out on her blog while she's off GETTING MARRIED! 

Isn't that soo exciting? 

Thinking about her upcoming nuptials makes me reminisce on all kinds of memories from my big day. 

Even though I married my husband almost 7 years ago, I can easily remember all the happiness and anticipation I felt in the days leading up to our wedding. I can remember all the stress I felt, too.

Yikes.

And that brings me to why I'm here. 

Girls, I have some tips from you:

5 Tips to Beat Stress & Truly Enjoy Your Wedding Day

1) Just Say No to Bridezilla Tendencies

Yes, your wedding is one of the biggest days of your life. Yes, you want everything to be perfect. And, yes, you have dreamed about your ceremony since you were a little girl. But, try to relax! Enjoy the planning process. Accept help from family and friends graciously. Take lots of deep breaths. Nobody likes a scary bride-to-be...so smile and cherish every moment.

2) Be True to You

So what if your idea of the perfect wedding isn't the same as your mom's. Or your best friend's. That's why this day is so great...it is all about you and your groom! Choose things for your wedding that make you truly happy. Some of my favorite memories from my ceremony were the special moments that made our day a little different. Include music that you both enjoy. Have a passage read from a favorite novel. Hold the ceremony in a place you love.

3) Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

I promise that you won't remember if your bridesmaid scuffed her shoe right before she walked down the aisle. Flower girls don't always cooperate, nobody will mind...they will be too busy waiting to see the bride! Little things that don't go exactly as planned are no big deal, especially in the long run.

4) Take Lots of Pictures

Brides glow. It's just a fact. And grooms are remarkably handsome. Save the special moments for posterity and pose for tons of photos. Take some silly ones, too...you'll laugh about those later.

5) Treasure the Unexpected Moments

Things are going to happen that are not according to plan on your wedding day. I think that's just a fact of life. We were married on a very hot July day in Alabama, I still laugh when I think about how, at one point, all of the wedding attendants were pointing tiny fans at me to help cool me off. Later, at a very crucial moment, the minister dropped my husband's wedding band....it was only about 2 inches away from falling into the water (and being lost forever). But we caught it, and that is one of our most favorite stories to tell about our ceremony; it always makes us smile.

What tip would you add to this list?

{This is a great pre-wedding list, Ashley! I hope it can help some of you future brides-to-be. The "take lots of photos" part is what I am looking forward to the most. I have to say that Ashley (a total Elizabeth Taylor look-alike, so lucky!) and her husband look so amazing in their wedding photos! Thanks again for sharing this!}

Guest Post: Janette the Jongleur

Hello I Typed for Miles readers! Before I get into who I am and what I'm doing here... I would love love love to congratulate my sweet bloggy friend, Cara-Mia on her wedding! Eeee! Aren't you just THEE happiest for her? I am! (Wishing you some much deserved bliss C!) Ok! Glad to get that out of my system! Hiiii!!! My name is Janette (of Janette the Jongleur) and I’m here to share my expertise and knowledge on all things marriage. Actually... I’m not. I really don’t know much about marriage. I’ve been married to Lovey (my husband) (not his real name) for almost 4 years. That’s hardly enough time to relay the secrets of a spectacular marriage. Right??

So why am I here exactly?? Well. Cara-Mia asked me to guest post on anything marriage related, I got super excited, my brain short circuited a little, and I said yes. (Sounds a lot like my engagement story.) Anyway! Today I’m here to give you some marriage advice. What advice could I possibly give?! Well friends... Never fear. Today I’m not only going to share what I've learned along the way, but what other women (wiser and married 20+years) shared with me before I married back in 08. Tried and true tips, I tell ya!

RESPECT & ♥ 

Respect and love the heck out of your husband to his face and behind his back. When he’s around build him up. Thank him for his share of the workload. Point out his positive qualities. When he’s not around don’t bad-mouth him, make fun of him (in a negative way), or belittle and tear him down. Laud him for his strengths…And keep his weaknesses under wraps. Value your husband, express his worth to him, and he will move mountains for you.

 PLEASE & THANK YOU

Remember your manners! So often we forget to be polite to people in our very own family and especially our husbands. We tend to treat strangers with more civility and manners than our own spouses! So say excuse me, please, and thank you. Practice kindness and selflessness. And don't chuck remote controls at his face. Or kick him in the shins if you need to pass by him.

Be BFFs!

The other day I realized something. Lovey is my favorite person to be with... for everything! He’s my favorite shopping buddy, confidante, and movie date. I would rather be with him than any other person. And he is the only one I share my deep thoughts and secrets with (Besides the Lord of course). He is it. My ultimate everything (on earth). He comes first and always will. So be your husband's bestie. And yes, of course he will need his alone/guys only nights. That's fine. But always keep him at the forefront of your heart and mind.

LEARN TO FIGHT

Fight fair. Learn what underhanded tactics you use when arguing and AVOID them. Find out what gets you and your husband fuming. Me? I tend to take stuff out on Lovey when I'm grumpy at someone else. This has been the cause of many of our arguments. I've recognized this character flaw and am working on it. Also, do not rehash old arguments. And most importantly make sure you are having a legitimate reason for an argument. Out of all the fights I've had with my husband  I can only remember about 3 of them. Three! 3 in 3.5 years of marriage (And I know we've had plenty!) Chances are you're arguing about something really petty... So remember that you will not remember!!! In a few weeks you will forget why you were arguing. And if you do remember you will recall that the caramel apple he didn't buy for you that one and only time you asked for a special treat is not even worth remembering ;-) Oh yeah! And don't fight in front of others and never ever ever hit each other.

STAY MARRIED

Obviously there are legitimate reasons for divorce (abuse, adultery, abandonment, etc.) but divorce should not be an option (again the aforementioned are exceptions). You promised that this commitment was until the end of your days, so keep that promise. Do everything in your power to get help. Seek counseling. Seek the help of friends or family. Every problem has a solution. And sometimes it takes work. Hard work. But it's sooo worth it.

Now, hopefully you can glean something from all of  this, even if you aren't married. Regardless, if you have some pearls of wisdom PLEASE share in the comments! I would love to hear from you!

PS. Thanks for reading and thanks for inviting me to take over your space Cara-Mia! For more of my wily wedded wisdom (NOT) click here. I explain  5 Things I Wish Someone Would’ve Told Me Before I Got Hitched. Or for my regular shenanigans, please check out my blog and happy place, Janette the Jongleur.

{Many thanks to Janette for kick-starting the marriage guest posts on my blog this week. (On Valentine's Day no less!) I love your tips and will definitely be keeping these in mind! Aren't Janette's posts always so visually appealing? Always! xo, Cara-Mia}

Cabazon Dinosaurs

This weekend was my bachelorette party. It wasn't anything too crazy (although there are some crazy photos I hope won't be seeing the light of day...), but it was perfect. I had such a great time. The first day was just my sister and our friend Jessie, and we stayed at the Ace Hotel in Palm springs, which is pretty much my favorite place. I don't have all the photos yet, so I'm just going to post about something we did as soon as Jessie got there.

Pee Wee Herman fans will recognize these Cabazon dinosaurs.

Jessie had never seen them, and she is always down for a photo shoot, so we took her. It's only about fifteen minutes from Palm Springs. My parents took us there a few times when we were little.

Of course the other great thing about Cabazon is that there is an amazing group of outlet stores there. Unfortunately, there was no time (or money) for that this time. Ever been there?

Today I thought I'd share two vintage pieces that are already in our apartment. I went up yesterday to drop some things off, and I was finally able to take a photo of the buffet I bought a few weeks ago in Chino Hills.

I had been looking for a buffet since the summer, and was thrilled to find this piece by lane. Most buffets I saw were too big for an apartment, so I love that this one is little. Definitely cannot wait to fill it up with vintage dishes and create cute displays on top.

Brian actually bought this record player last week. I think it's perfect for our apartment, and I love that he picked this out on his own.

I am getting so anxious to start setting up in the apartment! Photos to come, I'm sure.

{This week I'm linking up to Her Library Adventures for her Flea Market Finds Sunday as well as Miss Mustard Seed's Furniture Feature Friday.}

Blogscars

The lovely Miss Janette has created something really great: the 2012 Blogscars! (Blogging + Oscars. Very cute.) She's nominated some really amazing blogs, as well as others that I can't wait to check out. Plus, she was nice enough to nominate me for the Best Blogtress in a Leading Role category. I'm honored.

If you care to vote for that category, here you go. Be sure to check out all the categories, too.

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